Hello beautiful people I hope I find you well in this majestic year called 2020.HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! It’s looking up to be an amazing year so far, I am fired up and excited for the days to come. January has been so good to me and I can’t wait for February to arrive. If you know me well you know that February is our birth month my son included. I am excited to be turning 27 and my son will be 5 years old. We are three days apart so we usually just celebrate our birthdays together.
Today I wanna talk about Drinking mums, Mums that love to drink for various reasons. Be it alone to take the edge off at home or outgoing extroverts who go out for a couple of drinks during happy hour. Being a mum is definitely a full-time job that is very demanding. My son is 5 years old and he is a fireball of energy. I’m still to wrap my head around the idea of parents that have more than one kid. Because shuuu kids are a lot guys I mean they are so demanding, attention seeking loving little love terrorists. That being said I understand why a lot of mums have befriended the bottle as an escapism plan just to escape for 2 mins.
Taking care of little people is a lot and some mums that drink a glass or two wine or more everyday say it helps them be better parents. Some say they are more energetic and present when they have a little buzz. Especially for stay at home mums they find alcohol pretty entertaining because they say they are somewhat bored all alone at home waiting for that school run. In the midst of this everyday boredom they find themselves slowly but surely becoming alcoholics and also depending on the bottle too much. We as parents think that when we drink our kids don’t see it but I’ve noticed that no matter how little your kids are they see it. And most kids don’t know how to confront such situations without appearing nosy or downright too big for their shoes.
Working mums on the other hand feel that after a long day at work they need a drink to relax. Kids don’t really put much thought in considering that mum might have had a really long day at work. They will come full force with their stories, grievances and excitement. Its hard not to lend a listening ear when you are a parent. So, before all of that explodes or in the midst of that, mums take some coping mechanism found in alcohol. It can get from 0 to 100 real quick especially when we have a lot of kids at home.
I perfectly understand both situations but the downside of these situations can end up in self destruction. You might end up being an alcoholic without even knowing it because in your head you have a perfect excuse to drink every day. And besides you may say I’m not hurting anybody in the process so why not continue with my regimen. Have you ever thought that the person you could be hurting is actually you! You become codependent on alcohol to be a ‘good’ parent. Drinking is not bad; I actually drink but I do it responsibly and in moderation. I don’t drink every day too. Believe me I’m no saint I used to abuse alcohol and I am grateful that I found my grip and now we good.
As mothers we are always working under pressure and we are bomb multitaskers, kudos to us we are superhumans. But with all these amazing attributes we find ourselves working under pressure and failing short in some areas. It is in those moments when we feel we need to be superhumans that we look for some sought of drug to help us cope so that we don’t lose our cool. The load can get really heavy for us and its no walk in the park, that’s why we turn to alcohol, prescription drugs and actual drugs to cope. I for one growing up I always thought my mum was a superhuman and I role modeled her. Now I understand how hard she had to work for us and to also maintain that superhuman status. Its tough!
Let’s look at this whole story in another light. The whole drinking sport is done out of love so that we can put a sweet smile on our children’s faces. We think alcohol gives us super powers and makes us superhuman in some way. Its actually an illusion! We are the ones that have super powers within us. Once you become a mother you graduate and have abilities you never knew existed inside. Trust me its magic!
What am I trying to say in this blog post? I am saying to you beautiful mothers you really actually don’t need alcohol to expand your horizons. Your horizons are already beautiful and beyond. Alcohol is also beautiful but its not a need. You don’t need it to help you cope with your kids, you don’t need it to put a smile on your children’s face. Everything you think you can find in alcohol, its all in you mami. You are beautiful inside and outside and your children think you are amazing too. So, before you reach out for that drink, think twice and think about your health, your children especially. Because if you want to see your kids graduating and getting married, it can only happen if your alive, healthy and happy.
So, to all my beautiful mothers out there may we make 2020 the start of something beautiful. May this upcoming decade be the best decade ever! We are bold and definitely beautiful. Until we converse again ladies and gentlemen, I love love you!
P.S. I’m currently reading The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy. Its an amazing book so far, its literally mind blowing. Remember leaders are readers!