Hello beautiful people I surely hope you are having an amazing day filled with gratitude and love. Today I want to talk about money. Is money that important in a relationship? I for one believe that money enables us to do the things that we so dearly love. In relationships money serves as an extension of our love, it becomes a vehicle of expression. We are able to fully express our love to each other with the abundance of money. To be honest I love the presence of money in my life, I honestly do not see anything bad about it. People think that the love of money in a relationship ruins relationships. And this could be somewhat true because anything done in excess is not good for you, you are supposed to strike a balance in your life. In my past relationships the reason why most of them failed was because of 75% money related issues. Disclaimer: I AM NOT A GOLD-DIGGER! I do not go around looking for the richest person in town in order to chop his money. Nah that’s not me sis!
The point I am driving here is that when you are in relationship it is important to acknowledge that money is an important issue that may break or make a relationship. Most divorces in the world the causes are financially related because growing up we are not taught to handle money wisely. I am speaking in the African context here. Our parents did not grow up having wise financial knowledge because their parents didn’t know better too. So they passed it down to their children (us) not knowing the effect it has on our future. Now let’s size it down to relationships, our partners especially men feel that women nowadays should not depend on them entirely financially. A woke woman nowadays is expected to be financially independent in a relationship because well that’s the only way she can hold her own. Men also consider it very attractive if a woman has that specific quality cause I mean who needs to be weighed down by his partner who constantly asks for money?
My message to all the phenomenal women out there is have your own ladies, make your own money and be able to stand tall in a relationship. In an economy like ours we need to work twice as hard if not thrice in order to make ends meet. When you are earning something you are able to go on trips with your loved one, buy your lover gifts and they are also able to spoil you in that fashion and your relationship flourishes. Some may want to jump in and want to say Missy money is not what makes a relationship flourish. I understand this but I will tell you this money serves as an extension of love, I did not say money is love! Get me right there hanty. In this era I have noticed that most of the women that are being abused are the ones that are not financially independent. It is really sad because men take advantage of the fact that you are not able to get out of an abusive relationship because you are financially dependant on him. They tend to mistreat you because they are feeding you from the palm of their hands and they believe that it is foolish to bite the hand that feeds you.
Women hear my cry, be financially independent have your own, even if you are bringing a dollar to the table at least you are not entirely dependent on a man. Let us continue to hustle and grind for the betterment of our future. The future is female and the future is now! I urge you to read a phenomenal book called The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles. This book will literally liberate you from the shackles of poverty. One beautiful quote from this book is, “WHATEVER may be said in praise of poverty, the fact remains that it is not possible to live a really complete or successful life unless one is rich. No man can rise to his greatest possible height in talent or soul development unless he has plenty of money; for to unfold the soul and to develop talent he must have many things to use, and he cannot have these things unless he has money to buy them with.”
I hope I am leaving you with an eternal flame that will light up your whole being and set your soul on fire to be better and more! Until we converse again may you remain grateful and love everything and everyone you touch💕