Finding Love Online

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Hello my beautiful friends I do hope I find you well and happy new month. I love August it’s truly a breath of fresh air although its hella windy at least winter is over. Today I want to talk about finding the love of your life on the internet. Do you believe in finding your match online, using dating apps or even merely bumping into each other on popular sites such as Twitter, Intsagram and Facebook? We are living in a virtual world that is constantly changing and new apps are being birthed on a regular basis that seek to bring us closer together across the world. Love is literally everywhere in the virtual world. You get to find your custom bae online. For example if you want a tall lanky guy who is blue eyed, educated and independent, he is a click away.

What then matters or is of concern is compatibility, are you compatible with this your type. Is your type also in search of someone like you? We find ourselves romanticizing the whole aspect of finding someone perfect online and we take away the realistic expectations of any relationship, we become ignorant to the possible flaws of the other person. We might be picture perfect online but are we compatible physically? Are we able to hold a conversation in real life? What if he or she has certain mannerisms that I cannot stand in real life? Do these serve as the ultimate deal breakers? Because to be honest when you are conversing online you try to sell yourself to the other person as impressionable as possible in order to be easily liked or loved. Don’t worry it’s nothing personal it’s just part of human nature.

We find ourselves concealing our weaknesses so that we can be labelled beautiful, lovely, intelligent, happy and all that. We hardly share the bad and ugly with our potential partners simply because we want to uphold a certain image that allows us to be in this person’s life in the long run. But are we really doing ourselves any good in all this façade? Fast forward to meeting someone physically, they actually like your pretty eyes that they said they like online they actually think you are still as handsome as you portrayed online. But they don’t like the way you talk, your voice is too squeaky, they don’t like that you are rude to the waitress or that fuel attendant.

All of these things you concealed for the obvious reason that you would end up being sad and lonely with no one to take care of you in the long run. You could not mention that you have an anger problem because who in their correct mind would want to be with someone who is angry most of the time. The virtual world gives us that temporary immortality that enables us to hide our weaknesses. We become very good at hiding our flaws and blemishes to the world that people around us fall in love with a lie. I mean who has posted online having a tantrum or a meltdown or an anxiety attack and actually glorifies it? Literally no one because no one wants to see that dark side of anyone. We are all guilty of creating a bubble and walking on egg shells in the name of pleasing the one we think is desirable and worth having. The irony is that in return we are the same people responsible for bursting our own bubble when the weaknesses surface and we are unable to hide them.

Finding true love is more than possible it is the in thing but there are conditions to it. You need to be as honest with yourself as possible you need to be someone who really knows what they want and how they want it. When you love yourself you will find yourself in the arms of the one most deserving. You become honest with your potential partner letting them know as time progresses your flaws and what makes you furious. We all have that and it be stupid to act all goody goody because that is just plain suspicious. Ladies let him be in love with those stretch marks, stop editing your face too much they want to see the real you they love that. If they don’t then they are not yours because when they meet you in real life you don’t have that snapchat filter it’s just you, with no edits no what. Don’t make them expect to see a light skinned woman yet you are beautifully dark like Lupita Nyongo.

Instead raise that bar and own your true self. Remember you are perfect with those flaws, those stretch marks, that gap tooth, that dark complexion all of that. That is what makes you powerful and that is what makes you unique that is where your power lies. Don’t waste your time trying to look like Kim Kardashian, sis she is already taken, be you and love the person that you are and you will see the world falling hopelessly in love with the real you. The people that need to love you will love you just the way you are, no edits nothing just you. I am pro love I love love. Don’t be afraid to try finding the love of your life online just be careful on who you confide in because there are also a lot of catfish out there that is people who steal identities and pretend to be other people.

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Be vigilant be wise but above all open your heart to new possibilities and don’t be afraid to love, to try and to risk wisely. Love is all around us and it cannot be contained so don’t be narrow minded instead be open minded and try this new age way of meeting and dating people. Don’t be left out and also don’t be pressured to do so. As in anything it may not be your cup of tea and that’s fine too.
I hope you enjoyed reading this post and don’t forget to like and share. Until we converse again love you lots and thank you for your precious time. Tell me your views too on online dating in the comment section below. I’ll be delighted to join in the discussion.
You know leaders are readers right? If you didn’t know now you know. I am currently reading a phenomenal book by Don Ruiz called The Mastery of Love. This book is an amazing reading, it explores self-love and loving relationships. It is a definitely a must read. Get yourself a copy its amazeballs.

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Five tips to stay sane in Zimbabwe…

Finding peace and happiness in dark times must be one of the most daunting things to do on earth. I struggle with finding a place in me that is peaceful, serene, purposeful and composed. I have learnt to accept over the years that I’m a fire ball. Growing up Zimbabwean has its fair share of ups and downs and it has definitely played a huge role in moulding the person I am today. My country is going through the most, an economic meltdown and dreams are being broken every single day. We as a nation are left with little or no hope at all for the full expression of our dreams. I am always reminded of how far I’ve come on a personal level sanity wise and it has been a beastful journey.

I have always had to fight for what I believe in from a very young age. My fight with depression has been a journey on its own and living in a country like mine it’s hard to keep yourself sane with all the price hikes and all. I find myself being continuously triggered by these situations and it’s challenging to keep your composure and stay sane. With all this mayhem I still believe that our country is yet to see its best days. We are definitely in the wilderness but like a phoenix we shall rise and conquer. The past few weeks have been hella hectic for me mentally wise because I had to fight these triggers that were threatening to put me back in a slump. Right now to be honest I have since activated survival mode and I am grateful for each waking moment because problems are arising from left, right and centre. What keeps me going in a stormy weather like ours are definitely two main things, my God and my beloved son. Those two are my constants they are the real MVPS my WHY in this world.

I find myself getting easily overwhelmed by various situations and that’s how I know that depression is definitely knocking on my door. Been fighting it with prayer, meditation and gratitude. It’s working for me and I am eternally grateful. We are all going through the most and it becomes challenging for us to want to hold each other’s’ hands in the presence of a stormy weather. But what we need to understand and learn is that we are all facing some type of hardship and it’s of utmost importance to be kind to each other.

We need each other more than ever before. Let us be part of the solution and not the problem. Let us build each other up rather than tearing each other down. It takes a certain level of maturity to offer a hand to someone who is going through what you are going through. We might not have the answers now, it might look like we are facing doom but please don’t lose hope we are closer to our solution than you know. So I managed to compile five important tips to stay sane in Zimbabwe:

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1. Practice Gratitude
When you are grateful for the little things God will give you the big things. He will open doors for you that you never even knew existed. Be grateful for waking up alive in the morning! Yes you may not be happy but sis you are alive and healthy. That’s something worth celebrating. It may not be much but it’s definitely something. Make it a ritual to be grateful about something every day. Trust me it works wonders and the bonus is that it keeps you SANE!

2. Pray
I’m not only calling out to all the holy people out there when I’m asking you to pray. I am talking to anyone who is willing to practice praying just to keep yourself sane. Prayer power works guys, we all have demons in us that tend to work overtime sometimes. It can get overwhelming I know. But when we pray we are in advent saying that there is a Higher power that can give us solutions to our problems, above all which can give us peace of mind and sanity. Try praying even just a sentence it works guys. TRY IT!
3. Meditate
Meditation is key to keeping yourself sane. It taps into your subconscious mind and it elevates your energy levels giving you positive vibes. Trust me it’s not a white person ritual, black people can benefit immensely from it too. It needs consistency and time. Make time to meditate. Mornings for me are the best. I try to calm my raving spirit through meditation and it works marvellously all the time. It’s a great morning boost you should try it, it works. You don’t need to invest much time just 15 minutes and you are good to go.

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4. Exercise
Well I’m not really a fitness bunny but I try to be fit most of the time. Its winter time and it’s one of the most challenging seasons to wake up early and exercise. But it has to be done, it keeps you sane and boosts your metabolism and brain. Look for a simple workout plan, don’t be hard on yourself please. I go for a run either early morning or early evening depending on the weather and mood lol. I always feel so much better after a good run. Also try investing in a good comfortable workout gear and a good pair of headphones/earphones. Exercising keeps you sane trust me.

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This is crucial! Having a great support system has helped me so much in fighting depression. My family especially has been there for me in every step of the way and I am eternally grateful for their unwavering love and support. Try to build a tribe of your own it maybe family oriented or friends oriented whatever the case maybe strive to surround yourself with people that want to see you win. The ones that bring positive upliftment positive energy. The ones that care about your wellbeing and help you soar. Once you have a good support system trust me you can conquer anything plus they keep you from going crazy.
I really hope that these 5 tips have shed some light in some way in your life journey especially if you are residing in Zimbabwe. I know we are going through the most as a nation but may we help each other to stay sane. So many suicides have been recorded in the past three years and we are losing the core of our nation the leaders of tomorrow. We can fight this we can build this. Until we converse again may you strive to stay sane in this forever changing whirlwind. Remember that when I’m preaching to you I’m also preaching to me. Stay blessed!

My Kinda Love…

Hey beautiful people how are you doing? Well for me to be honest winter is definitely not my favourite season, for the obvious reasons. The cold weather, the flu and cough season, I mean it’s just a lot to handle. I was actually down with a flu that turned into a fever recently, but thank God now I am lot better and I can now do the things that I love doing. One of them being writing to you guys. You guessed right my theme today is all about unveiling the very essence of what love truly means to me in this life season I’m in.

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Love takes so many different forms, shapes, shades and sizes. I like to look at love as ever changing, fluid and ever evolving. For the longest time growing up I used to think that love has one look, one shape and one size fits all. But having to have explored different facets and versions of love I now know that love is transparent and unconditional. Let’s take a look at a quick simple example shall we.

For example the relationship a human being has with his or her own dog. I mean that relationship surpasses all odds. Its timeless, it’s unique, its unconditional love being shown every single day. Did you know that your dog can sense the moment you walk in your house that you have had a bad day? This is why it tries so hard to cheer you up by jumping up and down in excitement, wiggling its tail and making happy dog sounds licking you even. Your dog is giving you undivided attention and unconditional love right there, so next time it does that please do me a favour and reciprocate. What I’m trying to drive home is that love is love you shouldn’t put it in a box, label it or worse still confine it to a certain place, person or thing. Let it have its domino effect on you and I promise you this you will live in abundance. I understand that there are a million definitions of what love is and how to know if you are in love. Google certainly does a great job at answering these type of questions. But have you ever stopped and asked yourself what love really means to you as an individual, despite what you have heard, learnt, integrated, perceived and grew up knowing.

Most of us are scared to ask ourselves this question because sometimes we might end up reopening certain wounds that we would like to forget that we have. When I was an adolescent I promised myself that I would never fall in love because I believed that that’s how people end up getting hurt and hating each other. I viewed love as bad omen something that was manipulative. I never sought out to look for its true meaning because well I carried some of my childhood trauma into my fragile teen years. My parents got divorced when I was seven years old and I never asked my mother why she got a divorce, so young as I was I concluded that I was the problem and I was not enough to keep my parents together. This birthed low self-esteem issues and believing that I was not enough for anybody later on myself. I genuinely resented love I loathed it with every fibre in my bone. I hated love!

Fast forward to my early twenties when I was a freshman in college I found someone and something that literally revolutionized my entire world and I was never the same again. I met a close friend of mine that helped me understand why I was carrying all this pain around and she helped me heal inside out. She was very instrumental in helping me redefine what love really is. She was patient with me and trust me I was pretty stubborn back then I always wanted things done my way. I am eternally grateful to have bumped into her. She showed me more than she taught that love is a four letter word that is LOVE IS A VERB. A doing word! When you say that you love someone you have to be willing to show them how much they mean to you.

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The something I mentioned above is my degree, my Media studies degree was the something that made me realize that love truly exists. I totally fell head over heels for it, I was in love. I loved it so bad that every time someone asked me about it I would literally light up and feel warm and fuzzy. You might be thinking that well it was a walk in the park. No fam! It was not it was challenging and it took various forms, shapes and sizes every other day. I used to cry too and be angry and be sad but overally I was in love and happy with it. My Professor once asked me if I would be doing what I was doing and I wouldn’t get paid for it, would I keep on doing it. And without even thinking about it I said YES! I mean this is how you know if you are following your passion.

I love what I do, I love writing I love it a whole lot. Back to the moral of the story. What I am trying to say here is do not let people define what love is to you. It’s A okay to custom make your own unique definition of love. Remember this Love takes all forms, shapes and sizes. Don’t let anyone tell you who to love and who not to love, love is unconditional embrace it. Love whoever you want be with whoever makes you feel alive, whoever ignites your soul and makes you feel loved.

We are living in a world where people don’t really value unconditional love we live in a world that glorifies hate, envy, jealousy, arrogance, egotism, selfishness, impatience to mention but a few. It’s up to us as the human species to love one another no matter the colour of our skin, our backgrounds, religion, gender and age. Just love love. Let it be part of your daily goal to just love. Remember love comes in all forms, shapes and sizes and above all it really comes when we least expect it, and that to me is my kinda love. Self-love is an art no one can ever fully master it but all I can say is you get better as the days go by.

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If you treat yourself better you attract better! Teach everyone else how to treat you, you are the real MVP the S.I. unit. Show them how it’s done.
I really hope you enjoyed this piece, don’t forget to leave a comment below and share your different definitions of what love means to you. Oh and before I go I want to leave you with this inspiring quote: ‘Always treat yourself like you are somebody you care about.’
Love you guys!

Comparative Superiority…

Hello happy people I am so grateful to be able to converse with you
again in this beautiful new month called June. In Zimbabwe during
this time we are experiencing winter and June is the coldest month. So you can imagine how difficult it is to wake up in the morning to go to work or school. But again His Grace helps us to wake up every morning because His mercies are new every morning.

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Today I want to talk about what is called Comparative superiority. It is a very interesting subject and deserves a discussion. Comparative superiority is when an individual feels better about their own life in comparison to others who seem not to be doing better than them, by whatever standards are used to measure greatness. This complex is rampant in this age due to the influence that social media has on our lives. We are found competing with each other on a daily basis analysing who is doing better at either making money or portraying to live a seemingly happy life. Our happiness is now based on comparison. Is she or he doing less than me then I’m happy because I feel like I’m in a better place than the next person. Does she have a drivers licence and doesn’t own a car well I am better because I own both so I’m better and perhaps happier. Is she addicted to drugs and doesn’t have her life together, well I have my life together and I am not addicted to anything so I’m better and happier. No sis you are not better than anyone just because you compare yourself with the next person!

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This is where we have it all wrong because now our happiness is now
dependent on whether I’m better than the next person. This has taken away the essence of what happiness truly is. Our happiness should not depend on comparison, it should be independent from it because you know what they say. Comparison is the thief of joy. Social media sites such as Instagram, Facebook and Twitter have actually redefined happiness for us in this generation. We see our peers getting married, having children, travelling the world, getting their dream jobs, dream cars and we think we are behind and so we become unhappy. But have you ever set down and thought if they are genuinely happy. The acquisition of material stuff does not equal to happiness! If it did then all the rich people would be automatically happy people.

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Let’s take a look at what the Bible says about this complex. Galatians 6 verse 4 says: Pay careful attention to your own work, for then you will get the satisfaction of a job well done, and you won’t need to compare yourself to anyone else. This is by far profound and sound advice.Work diligently for God alone because He is the one who gives us abundant happiness and satisfaction in our lives. Happiness does not and will not come from comparing yourself to your neighbour. Instead misery and dissatisfaction comes from comparing yourself to other people. You are constantly feeling like you are not doing enough and you are not enough which all causes you to ardently want to acquire more and more.

There is absolutely nothing wrong in wanting more out of life. But let
not your motive be because your neighbour has more than you. Instead why not strive to be better than what you were yesterday because the only competition that you have is the woman/man in the mirror. Try to ask yourself empowering questions like: Am I growing as a human being? Am I in a better place than I was yesterday? Am I empowering myself to be better? All these questions serve as a yard stick to measure if we are in alignment with our God given purpose.
Remember this, we all have different races to run and our destinies are unique to our abilities. Once you start to compare yourself with another person then you not only rob yourself of joy but also belittle your own abilities in turn altering your destiny.

If we could get one thing right in this lifetime is to live life without comparison. You might say but competition is healthy. Yes it is healthy when it is done in a way that praises God remembering that the only competition is YOU! Another helpful verse that should help you understand this concept is Philippians 2 verse 3-4: Do nothing out of rivalry or conceit, but in humility consider others as more important than yourselves. Everyone should look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others. My prayer for you is that you be
driven not by comparison but by the desire to please God in all meekness and humility. Don’t let social media hurry you and make you feel like you are losing out on life. You were born complete and God put you on this earth in order to fulfil your purpose. Instead put more energy in getting to know what your true purpose is in this world rather than pursuing fleeting adventures that leave you feeling inadequate. Remember that you are a living testimony a child of the Most High God. So please do us a favour and act accordingly. I really hope this post shed some light on what comparative
superiority is and the effects that it has on our daily conduct. We are unknowingly robbed of joy everyday if we are constantly comparing
ourselves to other people. Stop victimizing yourself and start living
your best life now because you are a royal priesthood a chosen generation. Believe it, internalize it and LIVE IT!
Until we talk again my dearies may you remain loved and happy. Thank you for the unwavering support, you guys are SUPERSTARS!
PS: Leaders are readers, I am currently reading The Power of Positive Thinking by Dr. Norman Vincent Peale. I have read this book a lot of times that is how good it is. Get yourself a copy and immerse yourself in it, trust me you will thank me later.

The Art of Preparation…

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Hello my beautiful friends it’s been a minute. Life has been an extreme sport for me lately. Nevertheless I’m back and ready to tuckle life. Today I want to talk about the art of Preparation. What it means to be prepared and the benefits Preparation has in life. I’ll start by my little story that can illustrate why its important to stay prepared in life. I studied Media and Society at Uni and I have always been passionate about Social media management. So after I graduated I struggled to get a job and it was pretty frustrating. I sat down with myself and I asked God to direct my steps and show me the way. I had an Aha moment and I stumbled into an amazing verse in Proverbs. Proverbs 24vs27 which says ‘Prepare your work outside; get everything ready for yourself in the field, and after that build your house.’ I remember praying thanking God for answering me. This verse speaks volumes to me, on that day I decided I needed to prepare myself for the job to come. I started practising with Social media applications. Familiarizing myself with Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIN etc. I got a hang of it pretty fast.

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That is when I began branding myself by letting people know that I could manage their social media. I got two individuals that approached me and believe me when I say I was ecstatic. Fast forward to a couple of months later a reputable company approached me and wanted me to manage their social media. I mean a whole company guys wanted me to handle their social media! I accepted the offer, and I can tell you this from the heart that I’ve never been more happier Career wise in my entire life. Isn’t that God? Lessons you can derive from my story are pretty simple and straight forward.

Number 1 Always know what you are passionate about and follow that passion. It will certainly sustain you in times of need. Love and love and love what you do. Number 2 Prepare yourself to meet with your desired opportunity. Practice, Practice, Practice and Practice your craft always. Whether you are employed or not just focus on bettering yourself daily. Trust me when I say its way better to meet your opportunity prepared than to meet it unprepared. Because we all know that if you are unprepared you will loose that grand opportunity. In our era of entrepreneurs it is always important to seize the moment but the moment cannot be seized without being prepared for it. My last lesson is EXCEL! When you get your dream job always put 110% effort when doing your job. Become so flat out fantastic at doing your job that they cannot do without you. Always work harder than you are paid for. Let your passion sustain you. These Lessons may also be identified as Benefits of being prepared. This also works even in your personal life. Let’s say you want to be married soon. Prepare yourself to be a wife. Get your house in order that is your emotional well being, mental wellness, physical being, spiritual wellness, financial fitness. All those aspects should be taken care of before you say I do. That’s preparing yourself to be a wife. When opportunity strikes that is when a man wants to wife you, you know exactly what you are bringing to the table. Preparing yourself to be the best version of yourself is a necessity nowadays. The 21st century woman is woke and is always prepared for a fight because this life is a battlefield. You constantly need to prove and reinvent yourself in this digital era. We are constantly evolving as human beings.

My last words to you are NEVER SETTLE, SEEK TO IMPROVE YOURSELF DAILY BECAUSE YOU ARE YOUR ONLY COMPETITION! Till we converse again I love you guys and stay prepared.

P.S. I am currently reading The Wait by Devon Franklin and Meagan Good. It’s an amazing book it speaks about Celibacy on a whole new level. Get it and you will not be disappointed!

Money and Love…

Hello beautiful people I surely hope you are having an amazing day filled with gratitude and love. Today I want to talk about money. Is money that important in a relationship? I for one believe that money enables us to do the things that we so dearly love. In relationships money serves as an extension of our love, it becomes a vehicle of expression. We are able to fully express our love to each other with the abundance of money. To be honest I love the presence of money in my life, I honestly do not see anything bad about it. People think that the love of money in a relationship ruins relationships. And this could be somewhat true because anything done in excess is not good for you, you are supposed to strike a balance in your life. In my past relationships the reason why most of them failed was because of 75% money related issues. Disclaimer: I AM NOT A GOLD-DIGGER! I do not go around looking for the richest person in town in order to chop his money. Nah that’s not me sis!

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The point I am driving here is that when you are in relationship it is important to acknowledge that money is an important issue that may break or make a relationship. Most divorces in the world the causes are financially related because growing up we are not taught to handle money wisely. I am speaking in the African context here. Our parents did not grow up having wise financial knowledge because their parents didn’t know better too. So they passed it down to their children (us)  not knowing the effect it has on our future. Now let’s size it down to relationships, our partners especially men feel that women nowadays should not depend on them entirely financially. A woke woman nowadays is expected to be financially independent in a relationship because well that’s the only way she can hold her own. Men also consider it very attractive if a woman has that specific quality cause I mean who needs to be weighed down by his partner who constantly asks for money?

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My message to all the phenomenal women out there is have your own ladies, make your own money and be able to stand tall in a relationship. In an economy like ours we need to work twice as hard if not thrice in order to make ends meet. When you are earning something you are able to go on trips with your loved one, buy your lover gifts and they are also able to spoil you in that fashion and your relationship flourishes. Some may want to jump in and want to say Missy money is not what makes a relationship flourish. I understand this but I will tell you this money serves as an extension of love, I did not say money is love! Get me right there hanty. In this era I have noticed that most of the women that are being abused are the ones that are not financially independent. It is really sad because men take advantage of the fact that you are not able to get out of an abusive relationship because you are financially dependant on him. They tend to mistreat you because they are feeding you from the palm of their hands and they believe that it is foolish to bite the hand that feeds you.

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Women hear my cry, be financially independent have your own, even if you are bringing a dollar to the table at least you are not entirely dependent on a man. Let us continue to hustle and grind for the betterment of our future. The future is female and the future is now! I urge you to read a phenomenal book called The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles. This book will literally liberate you from the shackles of poverty. One beautiful quote from this book is, “WHATEVER may be said in praise of poverty, the fact remains that it is not possible to live a really complete or successful life unless one is rich. No man can rise to his greatest possible height in talent or soul development unless he has plenty of money; for to unfold the soul and to develop talent he must have many things to use, and he cannot have these things unless he has money to buy them with.”

 

I hope I am leaving you with an eternal flame that will light up your whole being and set your soul on fire to be better and more! Until we converse again may you remain grateful and love everything and everyone you touch💕

Phenomenal Woman!

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I am so proud to be a Woman especially during a phenomenal time like this when women across Africa and beyond are breaking new grounds. This has to be by far the most exciting time to be crowned a Queen! I am in love with myself, I totally love the way my body is structured, the way my mind is evolving, the way my personality is growing. I am in love with the woman I am becoming, the mother that I am! In a beautiful month like March when women are celebrated and remembered for their unquestionable strength, I am truly honored to be a Woman. I want to take time to appreciate all the women in my life who have moulded me into the woman that I am today. Whether you had positive or negative contributions to my life you are all part of my amazing growth. I am exceptionally humbled by my mother who has defied the odds and managed to raise a beautiful daughter like me. Her words of encouragement remain in my heart forever and I have been blessed to pass them onto my beloved son. This is not a mother’s day post but a post in celebrating the phenomenal women around us. We have been battered, abused, bruised but still like dust we rise! It’s not easy living in a patriarchal African society like ours yet our phenomenal work goes beyond boarders and touches lives in a way unimaginable. We are the backs that have built the very roads you walk on, we are the light at the end of the tunnel, we are the fire in your eyes, that burning desire to be more and more. Above all we are fierce children of God! I am a phenomenal woman a humble work of art, the very blocks that have built the buildings we walk in. It sometimes gets overwhelming for us women as we are now expected to be both superhuman and human. We are human beings that continuously evolve and we are proud to be the hard workers that we are.

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Each day goes by wanting to be better, being better, living better and striving for better! Whatever we touch turns into diamonds we are designed to multiply and enhance everything we touch. We are the alpha care givers we are bold and beautiful! A piece of advice that I can give to my phenomenal sisters is, “Do not I repeat do not be afraid to let your unique light shine with the fear that you might blind others! There is no enlightenment in shrinking ourselves to fit into a box, we are meant to soar and go places ladies. It is A OKAY to have your cup running over it is very much okay to be full of yourself! Walk with your head held high because you yes you deserve the finer things in life!” I am again humbled to be able to tell you phenomenal woman that the world is your oyester don’t be afraid to dream, in fact dream big enormously gigantic dreams because you are all worth it. If you know me you would know that I love reading, one book I can recommend for you to read this month is You are a Badass by J. Sincero. I promise you that book will turn your whole life around. It’s a true badassery book! I love you so much guys and thank you so much for taking time to read my work. It means everything to me to be able to inspire women all over. Before I leave I will leave you with a phenomenal poem from my favorite woman Dr. Maya Angelou…

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Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.
I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size
But when I start to tell them,
They think I’m telling lies.
I say,
It’s in the reach of my arms,
The span of my hips,
The stride of my step,
The curl of my lips.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
I walk into a room
Just as cool as you please,
And to a man,
The fellows stand or
Fall down on their knees.
Then they swarm around me,
A hive of honey bees.
I say,
It’s the fire in my eyes,
And the flash of my teeth,
The swing in my waist,
And the joy in my feet.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Men themselves have wondered
What they see in me.
They try so much
But they can’t touch
My inner mystery.
When I try to show them,
They say they still can’t see.
I say,
It’s in the arch of my back,
The sun of my smile,
The ride of my breasts,
The grace of my style.
I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.
Now you understand
Just why my head’s not bowed.
I don’t shout or jump about
Or have to talk real loud.
When you see me passing,
It ought to make you proud.
I say,
It’s in the click of my heels,
The bend of my hair,
the palm of my hand,
The need for my care.
’Cause I’m a woman
Phenomenally.
Phenomenal woman,
That’s me.