Love is in the air this beautiful month of love February. I feel it everywhere I go I feel it in my heart, in my bones, in my mind. It’s such a beautiful feeling feeling loved all the time. I was blessed to be born in this beautiful month and the cherry on top is that my son was also born in this very month. We are three days apart! How glorious is that? Today I wna talk about self love, what it is and how we can benefit immensely from it. What is love? Well love for me has different forms and the best description of love for me is from the Bible in 1 Corinthians 13. For me it clearly describes the essence of love. One thing I have noticed as human beings is that we expect others to do a better job of loving us than ourselves. We go far and beyond in search of love yet it’s something that is already in us. We fail to love ourselves because we are our greatest critics! We label ourselves unworthy of our own love. This is all subconscious mind you, the results of this thought pattern are visible in things like self-condemnation, self-sabotage.
Okay before we go deep into the effects of not loving ourselves let’s look at what the Bible says love is. It says love is patient. Back to us, are you patient with yourself? We tend to be very impatient with ourselves especially when it comes to progressing in life. We feel we are running out of time and we are always behind. For some weird reason we are sooo hard on ourselves. Why though? It is because we set an unrealistic bar for ourselves. Ladies and gentlemen when you love yourself you are patient with yourself, you give yourself grace periods because that is what love is all about. The Bible continues to say love is kind! Are you kind to yourself? When you are kind to yourself you care a lot about your well-being and this includes your mental health, body health and soul health. Being at peace with yourself, having to have forgiven yourself of your past transgressions plays a huge part in showing yourself kindness and maintaining a peace of mind. When you are kind to your body you are conscious about what you eat and drink. You are not easily swept into addictions that affect your health because you genuinely care about yourself. Are you kind to yourself? Feed your glow ladies by eating and drinking right. Take good care of that beautiful temple of yours. Exercise those muscles go for that jog go for that walk with your dog. It’s all an expression of self-love!
The Bible says love does not envy. Envy envy envy. Being envious kills our sanity especially in this social media era we are more envious than any generation to ever live. Scrolling down on Instagram you see your peers living these lavish lifestyles and you start thinking oh boy I am totally missing out on life. No you are not sis! Stay in your lane and run your own race. The only competition you have is you! Envy kills more dreams than it keeps them alive. You stay in this ever spiralling rut because you feel like you are not doing much with your life. Comparison is the thief of joy and progress. When you love yourself you are not envious of someone else’s life, you are content with yours because you know you are bettering yourself daily. Do not be fooled on social media please most of those people you envy do not even have half of your peace.
The Bible goes on to say love does not boast and it is not proud. Being boastful is not good you end up being arrogant and proud. This results in belittling others and seeing others as unworthy. We are all equal in the eyes of God! It does not matter if you drive a mazarati or have a bicycle. Your worth is the same and you need to know that. When u are in love with yourself your worth does not come from materialistic stuff it comes from within. That of a calm and quiet spirit! You cannot find your value in belittling others, that is not love that is hate. The Bible then says love does not dishonour others. Dishonesty never gets you anywhere especially with yourself. Do you honour yourself by being honest with yourself? We are dishonest with our feelings most of the time. We live in denial and tend to sweep a lot of the things under the carpet. Why though? Because we do not love ourselves. Dishouniring others is also a huge reflection of how you see yourself as an individual. The Bible goes on to say love is not easily angered and it keeps not record of wrongs.
We are angry at ourselves for failing that test, failing that job interview, disappointing our parents, letting our children down. We keep all records of wrong because it is in our nature to crucify ourselves due to our wrong doings. That’s how we are! We are unforgiving by nature. When we do not forgive ourselves it leads to self-sabotage we begin to unconsciously punish ourselves because we feel we deserve to be punished for our past. This is not healthy at all! It leads to attracting negative situations and relationships in our lives that we could have avoided if only we loved ourselves enough to let go of our past mess. This is crucial in building a positive lifestyle and it all begins with forgiveness. Forgive yourself honey. It may not happen overnight but that decision you take to allow yourself to have a second chance at life is a huge step in the right direction. And you will see yourself attracting better situations and people in your dear life. The Bible says love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. Are you true to yourself? Most of us aren’t we love being copies of other people because it feels easier to do so. We forget how unique and authentic we are because we do not want be viewed as queer or weird.
Lastly the Bible emphasizes on what love always does. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres, above all love never fails! Let’s start with love always protects. Are you protective with yourself? Do you protect yourself from evil? Do you protect your peace? Do you protect yourself from bad boys? Do you protect yourself from bad friends? All of these answers show if you love yourself unconditionally. Sometimes we forget to protect ourselves from harms way. We walk directly towards danger! Protect yourself guys. Learn to say no often to people and situations that do not benefit you in any way. You are responsible for your own peace of mind protect your heart guard it jealously. It’s all you have! Protect protect protect! Love always trusts. Do you trust yourself? We tend to trust others more than ourselves especially when it comes to happiness. We trust other people to make us happy. It should not be like that, happiness is a choice and it solely belongs to you. Love always hopes. Are you hopeful? Some of us have lost hope in ourselves a long time ago due to our past transgressions. Be hopeful. Have hope in yourself. Believe in yourself. Believe in your abilities! You are a masterpiece my guy! Do not loose hope in the face of adversity be strong and of great character. That is how you show yourself love. Persevere in love, never give up on yourself remember that you are a work in progress. And if you can remember one thing from this blog post remember this LOVE NEVER FAILS! I really hope you got one or two or all of the self-love lessons I shared and be sure to practice it daily and never give up on yourself. Until we chat again remember to love yourself and know that you are number one! Love you guys stay loved!